“If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up some place else.”
Long before I was a motivational college speaker, I had a high paying job managing a team, a great place in Boston with a balcony overlooking the city, and a really fast two-seater coupe. Sounds great right?
Here’s the reality: I was working in an industry that didn’t inspire me, I had nobody to invite over to my apartment and I had nowhere to drive my fancy sports car. I felt empty.
The worst part about it was that this is what I had wanted a few years earlier. I had created the reality that I imagined, but I failed to imagine the really important details. I thought that these things would bring me the lifestyle that I desired and the friends I wanted to surround myself with.
It ultimately took me a few more years to figure out the error in my thinking.
What can we learn from this?
It’s easy to say what we want with our lives, but it’s difficult to know what we really want.
Try this exercise with me: Imagine yourself five years from now. You are sitting in a porch chair just reflecting on all that you have accomplished. You are so proud of where you are, what you’ve done and who you are surrounded by. You’ve done things that you were not sure you could ever do but really wanted.
What do you see, feel, hear, and taste?
Answer the following questions with as much detail as possible:
What have you accomplished five years from now?
What do you have in your life five years from now that you didn’t have before?
Who are the people in your world–the relationships you’ve developed or strengthened?
Now that you have answered some of these questions, think about the time line of these events. How far out are these accomplishments and life changes?
The more you can write this all out, the better off you will be and the more likely you will be to achieve it. And remember, don’t just focus on the stuff, but also consider the lifestyle and the relationships you have in your life.
Written by Marc Wayshak, conference speaker, motivational college speaker & university speaker