Have you ever heard that little voice inside your head when you’re angry, sad, frustrated or depressed? Nasty eh?
The age-old question is what got that voice to say such negative things in the first place? The answer is actually pretty simple–the voice in your head is telling you an answer to a question that you asked it.
Whenever something happens, we must respond and react. We do this through questions. For example, if something horrible happens to you, you might ask yourself, “Why does this always happen to me?” Your brain may then tell you, “because you’re a jerk.” Then you get depressed.
However, if instead you had asked yourself, “How can I deal with this situation and be better for it?” Your brain might give you a more productive and helpful answer. Not only do you avoid becoming depressed, but you also start working on a solution.
Try it! Next time you have a tough situation, ask yourself a more productive question rather than a leading question that will lead to a negative response.
Written by Marc Wayshak, college speaker and university speaker.